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ToyLady • October 3, 2008 at 10:20 am

Pretty much.

She said while munching on purple cauliflower dipped in non-fat yogurt cheese instead of an everything bagel with real cream cheese.



Alexia • October 3, 2008 at 10:45 am

Picture’s worth a thousand words… Sigh.Some days I feel like this. Sometimes I don’t. I feel better since I’ve been doing more an Intuitive Eating approach and I have more options.


Kqteaze • October 3, 2008 at 10:48 am

I hear you.

I ate well all last week, down 2 pounds. Yay, go me! right? Until I broke down and made chocolate chip cupcakes last night AND went out to dinner at a fast food place for dinner. All of which was yummy. And now I’m up a pound this morning. *sigh*


Erika • October 3, 2008 at 10:57 am


This said after I’ve recently gained 20 lbs back myself, after losing 50.



Seashore • October 3, 2008 at 11:11 am

That’s depressing! But it’s not always true, right?


Lyn • October 3, 2008 at 11:32 am

I have often referred to two people in my head: Thin Me and Fat Me. Even when I had lost 63 pounds, Fat Me would start shouting for cookies in the grocery store, and Thin me had to say, “No, dear. Have a fresh pear instead.”

I think as I have lost/gained/lost (currently losing 17 pounds I regained), I have found this out: Fat Me agrees with your chart. She wants oreos and donuts and ice cream. She finds a lot of happiness in the chip bag. And when I am eating badly, I want more of the same, and I do not want to come within 10 feet of a vegetable.

However, once I get a couple of good days under my belt, Thin Me comes out. She would have a different chart: her satisfaction with her food goes UP as she loses weight. She really ENJOYS a nice bowl of steamed fresh lima beans for lunch. She has things like lean taco salad for dinner and while munching away, thinks, “WHY did I EVER want to eat the salty, greasy, nasty foods I was eating??”

So I guess the key is (at least for me… maybe for others) to get away from the junk completely and start finding healthy alternatives that you truly enjoy. For me, there is nothing as delicious as a bowl of freshly made butternut squash soup with whole grain crackers on a cool fall day.

You’ve been such an inspiration to me along the way, PQ, and you continue to be, with your honesty and striving to be healthy. Be well. We’ll get there…


Helen • October 3, 2008 at 11:51 am

’nuff perfectly said.


EG • October 3, 2008 at 12:00 pm

DAMNIT, I know!


becca • October 3, 2008 at 12:00 pm

Amen. *sigh*


barbara • October 3, 2008 at 12:00 pm

Where is “happiness with my LIFE”?


MizFit • October 3, 2008 at 12:01 pm

for me it’s all the food as fuel mindset.

getting me to my goal (of longevity. will it only seem longer? :))

which, in all reality, is PRECISELY YOUR POST.


nolafwug • October 3, 2008 at 12:11 pm

I second the Intuitive Eating approach in theory. The idea that eating for pleasure is OK. No way am I fully there yet but I am trying to listen to my body (and my mind) so I can eat what’s yummy and also makes me feel good (and satisfied) most of the time.

I guess the ideal time to work on intuitive eating isn’t when you are restricting calories but why not? Knowing you’re going to be hungry sometimes but you’re just gonna shine it on for now – that’s how it works, right? I imagine Maintenance to be a place in which I come into my own as an Eater. But maybe 1800 calories only looks so good relative to 1300, you know?

Sometimes when I am really enjoying a salad or something I wonder if 1. I’m deluded and/or insane 2. Just freaking starving or 3. People will find out I like salad and storm my apartment with torches and pitchforks. Good thing this post is anonymous because I’m going to say it: Most of the time, I love the food I eat.


Amanda • October 3, 2008 at 12:37 pm

Hey PQ- do you cook a lot of your meals (from scratch I mean)? I only ask because I used to feel this way too, but then I started learning to cook. And I cook using real butter, eggs, oil, salt etc but since I’m doing it myself, I stick to reasonable measurements. Ever since I started cooking what I wanted I’ve noticed I’m a lot more satisfied with my meals. And as an extra boost, it feels good to spoil myself with a good meal that I made. I live alone so a lot of my meals are for 1-2 portions. I just find recipes I like and break down the measurements into tablespoons (16 tablespoons per cup)


Rochelle • October 3, 2008 at 12:44 pm

Losing the weight was the easy part. Learning to live with yourself and your decisions is not so easy.

Good luck, PQ…


Xenia • October 3, 2008 at 1:01 pm

That is so unbelievably true. Heartbreaking, but true.


k. • October 3, 2008 at 1:08 pm

@Lyn – Amen! Although I certainly have those OMGTHIS IS SO UNFAIR I HATE THIS HEALTHY FOODBLERGH!!!! days, that’s mostly, in the words of Stuart Smalley, ‘stinkin’ thinkin’


PastaQueen • October 3, 2008 at 1:18 pm

@barbara – That would require a Z-axis and a 3D rendering tool :)


Jill • October 3, 2008 at 1:37 pm

Wait, am I looking at that wrong? The happier you are with your weight the happier you are with your food? Is that right? So when you are happily eating healthy, you’re weight is happy too? I think I’m thinking too hard about this now.

I’m cornfused.

Because when I am happy with my food I am eating healthy – tasty nonjunk. But when I am eating a lot of crap, then I am not happy and my weight is not of the happy variety either.

Oh crap, I think I’ve given myself a headache.

BTW, did your headache ever go away PQ?

Completely rambly today – sorry!!


syslak • October 3, 2008 at 1:41 pm

@PastaQueen – Oh, you are killing me (in a good way) with your graphs and math-speak! I totally love it!


DonnaLynn • October 3, 2008 at 2:12 pm

Is this most of the time, or are you just having a “down day” or “week”?

-DonnaLynn, in Hawaii


K • October 3, 2008 at 2:48 pm

@MizFit – the food as fuel theory does not work for me, because it rapidly turns into “I’m really tired today so I NEED this chocolate brownie”. Of course I’m less tired when I don’t lurch from sugar high to sugar crash, but this reasoning doesn’t work so well when I’m mid-crash.

I do enjoy healthy food. And unhealthy food. I’m not very discerning, so I enjoy eating most things. But after a week of eating pub food on holiday recently, I was definitely ready to go back to “small protein item, lots and lots of veggies” which is the usual pattern at home. These things go in cycles.


Sally Parrott Ashbrook • October 3, 2008 at 2:49 pm

That used to be my problem with every diet . . . until I flipped things from self-control to self-care. And learned to make the healthy foods tasty by putting more effort (and spices!) into them.

Perhaps you can have a post where we suggest healthy food we think you’ll love the taste of? :)


PastaQueen • October 3, 2008 at 3:25 pm

@Jill – I’ll update it with happy faces and frowny faces for clarification when I get home :)


Lindsey • October 3, 2008 at 3:43 pm

@Lyn – Totally agree! Although no version of me thinks a bowl of lima beans is a meal. :)

When I am in a good place eating-wise, I generally am good at thinking about how the foods I am eating are feeding my body.

I’ve been off my healthy eating plan for the last month because I just had gallbladder surgery, and wasn’t able to eat any fat prior to surgery and still have some restrictions as I heal. I think to reinspire myself, I need to reread You On A Diet and The Spectrum – neither are diet plans, but offer inspiration in the best ways to feul and take care of your body.


Healthy Amelia • October 3, 2008 at 4:02 pm

Hey Pasta Queen — I discovered a really yummy version of Mac and Cheese that is somewhat lighter but not gross. Just google Ellie Krieger and Mac and Cheese. She uses pureed squash in it which sounds like it might be disgusting, but is not! I am obsessed with it and loving it.


Lyn • October 3, 2008 at 4:15 pm

@Healthy Amelia – I have a recipe like this on my blog (Escape from Obesity)… the link is on the sidebar, Butternut Mac & Cheese. I use whole grain pasta, skim milk, and butternut squash in it. Even if I was not trying to lose weight, this would be the recipe I make because it is SO GOOD!!


s • October 3, 2008 at 5:37 pm

@PastaQueen – LOLOLOLOL. :)


s • October 3, 2008 at 5:48 pm

veggie chili! i’m eating it right now. it’s nutritious and delishus. (i guess i spelled it that way for novelty.)


Alex • October 3, 2008 at 6:28 pm

I’m not saying anything everyone doesn’t already know, but the key is moderation. You can be happy with your food as long as you have the self control to only have a few sips of a cookie dough shake and then throw it away.

There are so many books you can pick from for this, but seriously, “Why French Women Don’t Get Fat” changed my attitude toward food entirely and it came right at a time when I’d lost 30 pounds and probably would have started gaining it back if it hadn’t been for that book.

It was so hard for me to learn to let myself have a treat now and then and not think, “hey, I’ve messed up, now I can eat everything in the fridge and the paint off the walls.” I turned it into a game with myself: “I’ve NEVER had just one bite of caramel corn and then put it away. Let’s see if I can do it.” And now, on my better days, I can. I still can’t keep it in the house, but if I’m staying with someone for a few days and they have it, I don’t need them to throw it away. And that for me is a HUGE improvement.


Karen • October 4, 2008 at 7:48 am

If you are becoming too dissatisfied with your food, perhaps you need to switch eating plans. You may like Prevention’s Flat Belly diet, which consists of four small meals, each containing a serving of monounsaturated fat (including dark chocolate), or another plan that is healthy and tasty. Or perhaps just switch your focus from losing weight to losing a size and try to get there with exercise and a moderate diet. A third option would be trying to maintain where you are now until the headache problem is solved. (stress=cortisol imbalance=weight gain has been reported) Good luck!


RG • October 4, 2008 at 11:36 am

@PastaQueen – I agree with Jill, and no it’s not that I don’t know how to read and need smily faces (nice try, though). Being happy with food makes you happy with your weight?!? Is that because being happy with your weight is a sign of general happiness, or being happy with your weight means you let yourself eat yummy treats until it catches up with you?


Weight Loss Ways • October 4, 2008 at 2:06 pm

I think being happy increases your metabolic rate and this helps you lose weight. On the other hand when you’re not feeling happy you tend to feel lethargic and end up eating more than you would normally eat. Great graphic presentation! :-)

— Sarah


marti • October 4, 2008 at 6:38 pm

I’m thinking out loud here. Maybe instead of a direct correlation its one of those grids that has a high and low. It looks like a big plus sign and the goal is to be in the top right box that indicates high on both axis – what are the grids called? So the goal is to be happy with your weight and food. So you learn to appreciate carrots and low-fat ranch because it helps you fit into the miniskirt, but also knowing that eating 23 chocolate chip cookies is high on the food happy scale but low on the weight side. So really all boils down to attitude and learning how to change our mindset about food and its consequences. Ok, now I’m just rambling so I’m going to go.


100 DAYS IN BED • October 4, 2008 at 8:23 pm

For me it’s more “Being Happy = Better Eating = Weight Loss.” Is that an equation?!

I just wrote on my blog a post about this called “Don’t Let Your Big Butt Keep You From Living A Big Life.” :)

I just came to the realization that doing things that make me happy keep me “mentally in the game” for healthy eating. And these past 2 weeks I LOST 6 POUNDS!!! (Though I have a lot to go!)


Lilbet • October 4, 2008 at 8:31 pm

Oh, but have you ever had this happen?

Try eating a food that you used to have around the house as a staple pre-your new healthy, oh my gosh, I’m doing it, lifestyle–and you can’t stand it!

We just had some hot dogs that I used to buy all the time before I embarked on this crazy new life! They’re old fashioned, made by our butcher, and in my memory used to be fantastic.

Urgh!! GREASY, to say the least and ew, my stomach doesn’t feel too good!

Hang in there. I think there are great recipes out there, it just takes work.


Brandi • October 4, 2008 at 10:00 pm

Wow, this is actually kind of sad, LOL! I’ve just finished slogging through all the archives (and it took A WHILE) … and then I had a moment of triumph. I’m finished! I’m all caught up!

Followed by a moment of near-devastation. I’m FINISHED. I’m all CAUGHT UP. And now I am just like the other lackeys who have to wait and wait for new posts.


Susan • October 5, 2008 at 7:34 am

@RG – You’re reading it incorrectly. It’s showing that the happier PQ is with her food, the unhappier she is with her weight e.g. eating full-fat ice cream means gain weight.


RG • October 5, 2008 at 10:16 am

@Susan – Thanks, that occurred to me after I left, that I was reading what she wrote, not what she meant: it’s an inverse correlation, not a direct correlation.


Just_Kelly • October 6, 2008 at 9:33 am



Cindy • October 7, 2008 at 5:56 pm

For me, it’s all about sustainability. Life without the occasional gelato or stack of pancakes is not my idea of a good ride. But I also need to enjoy my food on a daily basis, so I’m working hard to find healthy things that I like to eat regularly. 120 pounds down and counting, and so far it works. But there are always gelato or pancake days in my future!


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