PastaQueen - Comments on 'Goal checking'

deanna commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:08:41 -0500

By deanna]]> Yeah for you!!

Emily commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:51:54 -0500

By Emily]]> I only want to know #3, because you said I can't know #3. It's like when you are a kid and your friend tells you they have a secret.

Good job, though!

chanda commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:05:08 -0500

By chanda]]> Those were some pretty hefty goals, Im impressed as hell! I like that idea though, three goals defined and met within a year. I think even I could do that.

Good luck with #3, whatever that may be. Not that Im curious or anything.. nope, not me..never. :)

Sarah commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:13:54 -0500

By Sarah]]> I never had heard of the three-goal system, but that makes sense. I think we all have a tendency to look at the big picture, at how many things we somehow feel that we need to "be better at." Maybe I'll try this for '09.

Alexia commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:21:04 -0500

By Alexia]]> Um, I want to ask for a hint about #3 without being rude or pushy, but can't figure out a way to do that. So I'll remain curious, yet supportive in all of your mysteriousness! ;-)

You rock!

I'm a business coach so am a goals geek type of person. I read a great book called The Renaissance Soul: Life Design for People with Too Many Passions to Pick Just One. It has great tactics for managing multiple goals while actually getting them done.

Andrew is getting fit commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:27:31 -0500

By Andrew is getting fit]]> Good on you. :)

You are a perfect tease. Secret goal must know!

Sarah commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:30:41 -0500

By Sarah]]> I sure am curious about yor secret goal, it might not even be that interesting, but call it a secret and everyone gets nosey! Although, I guess you had to mention it as you are talking about a THREE goal system, so two just wouldn't do.

TOWR commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:34:25 -0500

By TOWR]]> I had a depressing realization the other day: I'm never going to be the person I really want to be. Not because I'm not willing to try, but because life is a journey and not an end goal (sorry for the cliche), so I'll never be exactly who I want to be. But that's not going to stop me from getting as close to it as I can! This post was a good kick in the butt. :) Thanks!

susan commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:38:52 -0500

By susan]]> okay the game is on.... Guess Goal #3!

My guess....it's something spicy to do with PQ's love life ;-)

PastaQueen commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:00:15 -0500

By PastaQueen]]> Yeah, the math geek in me would say that life is like approaching an asymptote line.

Sally Parrott Ashbrook commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:09:55 -0500

By Sally Parrott Ashbrook]]> Yes, you've just made all of us terribly curious about #3. Ha ha. But it's good to keep some things to yourself when you're not ready to share yet.

The Baroness commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:11:28 -0500

By The Baroness]]> Umm...I want to know about #3. Come on, we'll never tell. Okay, that's all I will say about it.

We're all proud of you for working on our goals! You work very hard and get what you want!!

Juice commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:14:56 -0500

By Juice]]> Is there a point in time where you might be willing to share #3 with us? Perhaps after you have accomplished it? I'm curious too!

Mal commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:17:28 -0500

By Mal]]> I secretly hope that goal #3 has something to do with boyfriends/girlfriends, match.com, or something else in the romantic realm. Maybe you are just super private and tight-lipped about that portion of your life (and no one would blame you if you were!) but I'd love to hear what goes on in that beautiful brain of yours in the context of a romantic relationship.

Forgive if this comes out offensive -- it wasn't intended to!

The thing I love about setting big goals that positively impact your life is that even if you don't totally achieve them, you always end up moving in the right direction. Case in point -- your goal to talk to 3 people per week during running group. Okay, you didn't achieve the mathematically perfect number that you intended to, but it got you motoring in the right direction!

Good on you, girl.

Kim commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:08:45 -0500

By Kim]]> Definately a Pasta-King in the works I think...

good luck with #3 whatever it is.

MizFit commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:34:12 -0500

By MizFit]]> I was working on revamping my personal mission statement today and this was SO TIMELY for me.

thank you.

Gwendolyn commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:34:23 -0500

By Gwendolyn]]> For #2, I've found that making friends is pretty difficult to do. I've been living near Boston for over over two years and have yet to make a single friend (other than my boyfriend). Just getting people to respond to a friendly "hello" up here is challening! I often wonder if it's because I'm fat, but then even the other overweight people act the same way towards me. I don't get it. >.

cindy commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:34:43 -0500

By cindy]]> Hi PQ,
Three goal system---I like the idea of it. My inclination is to try to attack everything that needs "fixing," which is of course impossible, so I end up fixing nothing. Limiting myself to three goals might help me focus better, if they are not too big...
When I started this weight loss goal, I also started graduate school the same week. I think I was nuts, in hindsight. But I am 130 pounds lighter and I am two classes away from graduating ~ one this fall and one in the spring and I'll be done. It will be three years since I started, come Labor Day. I've made a lot of progress, but I've also made a LOT of mistakes and created all kinds of stress for myself socially and at work by having such big personal goals. Everything has a cost... and personal growth is "EXPENSIVE!"
Three goals...I am going to have to do some thinking---you are always good for that (promoting thinking!).

Mattie commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:38:59 -0500

By Mattie]]> You know how people start to tell you something, then half-way through they realize they are telling you something that either your not privileged to know or forget that they didn't want to tell anyone anyways ... so they stop and say, "Nevermind."

(And they say it in a tone that pays homage to Gildna Radner?)

Yeah. That's you. LOL

You could have stopped at two. You didn't have to admit there were three goals. You didn't have to taunt us.

We bought your book! Some of us even paid extra to have it autographed!

We need to know what Number 3 is!!!

I'm going to go cry now.

maggieapril commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:23:22 -0500

By maggieapril]]> Just getting to the point where you even have a book to "promote as well as you can" is impressive - the national television appearances make it even more so.

I totally identify with #2. As a business owner I FORCE myself to go to Chamber of Commerce meetings and the like. I may be getting better at it, but I'm still not great. (Seriously, small talk is overrated and taxing on the psyche.)

As for #3, talk about piquing the interest of your readers, good job!

Jen commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:39:15 -0500

By Jen]]> I really like the three-goal idea. Good work on your book promotion, too, you really got out there and made some major media stuff happen. Good luck on 2 and 3. :)

Paula commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:58:08 -0500

By Paula]]> If #3 has to do with eHarmony, I have had success! I met my husband there! (We celebrate our first anniversary on Monday the 25th!)

Sara commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:44:18 -0500

By Sara]]> What a great strategy for the daunting task of not only meeting our goals, but making them to begin with.

Kudos to you for keeping the mysterious goal #3 close to your chest, and I hope that you make great strides toward the achievement of it!

jae commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 19:09:40 -0500

By jae]]> I really don't care what #3 goal is but if you need to let it out I have big ears! :)

Anyways, I usually don't make goals because I'm lazy and don't work on them then I get all pissed at myself about how lazy I am. But I've never really tried, you know? I think you have a great idea by only picking three because that's doable. Hmm, something for me to think about! ~j

dinah commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:29:13 -0500

By dinah]]> congrats!

Jenny commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:44:24 -0500

By Jenny]]> I like to narrow it even further. 60-day personal challenges are my style, and two goals, max: one physical, one mental/spiritual. For instance, my last one was 1) eat at least two fruits and two vegetables every day (this was up from one last time and none the time before) and 2) get in touch with one neglected old friend for each week of the challenge, for a total of 8. I felt like a completely different, better person by the end. Naturally, though, some goals take longer to achieve -- but I seem to like short sprints.

Tracy Bradley commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 23:00:25 -0500

By Tracy Bradley]]> Hi there!

Just listened to your podcast with Jimmy Moore last night, and coincidentally saw your blog listed on the Nursing School Search Top 100...wanted to pop by and say hi :) Really enjoyed the podcast, and am looking forward to reading your book as well. And congrats on your progress!

BTW, I second "The Renaissance Soul" book - literally changed my life, and I don't say that lightly! Ahhh, external validation, there's nothing like it.

Merry commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 23:19:24 -0500

By Merry]]> Your commentary on goal #2 reminded me of Danny Wallace's book "Yes Man." He made it a goal that for a year he would not say "no" to any offer than someone made him.

I liked reading the part when he got a call from a telemarketer about double-glazing:
"Yes! I want to have my windows double glazed, even though I don't own the house and I don't know what double-glazing is, and I'll tell you why! Because I've decided to say 'yes!' every time someone asks me a question, and click -- Hello? Hello?"

Got kinda interesting, at least regarding the emails he was saying 'yes!' to from Nigerian royalty. Anyway, an amusing read:
http://www.powells.com/biblio/17-9781416900665-0

Jim Carrey is turning this into a movie, oddly enough.

Talli van Sunder, DPT commented on 'Goal checking'

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 23:41:12 -0500

By Talli van Sunder, DPT]]> I agree when you set too many goals you can get overwhelmed and end up having a difficult time achieving any of the goals. It is better to set a few simpler goals and work hard on achieving them.

Good luck with your book! You won't have any problems meeting new people! :-)

madeline commented on 'Goal checking'

Fri, 22 Aug 2008 05:19:11 -0500

By madeline]]> You have such an ordered way of approaching life. I am sometimes like that when I am serious about doing something. But I am also a big picture thinker and often get stressed out when whatever I want or need to do seems so big and I don't know where to start. Sometimes I think it's laziness that I don't just lay everything out and start taking small steps. Thanks for putting your ideas and processes out there. It's so great to see someone else doing the productive thing - it's encouraging and reminds me that I can (I mean should) do it too.

Writer Dad commented on 'Goal checking'

Fri, 22 Aug 2008 18:01:47 -0500

By Writer Dad]]> Nice to meet you Pasta Queen. I'm Prince Pasta. It's my favorite thing in the world. Had it for dinner Tuesday, last night, and finished the rest off for lunch about an hour ago. I like your blog, and just wanted to say that I think Half Assed is the single best title I've ever heard for a weight loss book. You're awesome.

Abs commented on 'Goal checking'

Wed, 03 Sep 2008 06:50:35 -0500

By Abs]]> Hey, if you want support to help you reach those goals, I can highly recommend www.43things.com - it's a super-supportive community based around setting and achieving goals, and it's a really fun place to hang out and make friends. Look me up on there - my username is absnasm (it's a long story, and Googleable if you can be bothered).

And if you want even more one-to-one support, drop me a line - I'm a life coach and I would love to work with someone as driven and motivated as you.