PastaQueen - Comments on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html PastaQueen - Comments on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' en Entry is copyright Jennette Fulda. Fri, 05 Jan 2007 10:48:36 -0500 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=4.21-en http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Kala commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Great post.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3002 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3002 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 11:55:13 -0500 Jen commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Jen]]> Damn girl, you never cease to amaze me. You're still my hero.

I've been a bit distracted by life (read: wallowing in self pitty over unemployment and lousey holidays) so I haven't kept up with your blog like I have in the past.

As ever your posts are funny, honest and inspiring. I just checked out your progress photos and you are amazing. I'm so proud of you.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3003 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3003 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 12:12:06 -0500 dg commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' dg]]> ohh beautiful post, PQ! you are a legend :)

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3004 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3004 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 14:01:20 -0500 dg commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' dg]]> (my comment just got eaten, so i'll try again, i wasn't sure if you have the approval thingy switched on? apologies if you do... anyway, happy new year, if it's not too late to say that :)

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3005 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3005 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 14:02:22 -0500 Janice Bridge commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' PQ - it is an incredibly vulnerable post - thank you for sharing the observations. As someone who has been overweight since birth, and severely obese for a major portion of my life, I recognize many of the truths in your post. A year ago I began my journey to a lower weight body - and have been remarkably successful (for the first time in more than 40 years of failures) - I too now look in mirrors and marvel. Anyone who met me this morning for the first time, would not know that I have spent most of my life obese. And that thought needs additional reflection.

What do people who meet you for the first time today, think about PQ? Are you finding that long time acquaintences are reacting differently to you in your current body? What will you feel/look like at goal weight?

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3006 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3006 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 15:01:28 -0500 kristi commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Great post, I completely agree with you. I lost a lot of weight at one point in my life only to gain it back plus 70 pounds. I used to look in the mirror and think I looked fat at 150 pounds in my size 10's, I would love to be back at that weight now. This time will certainly be different, I will appreciate every pound lost and looked at each as an achievement. I just started reading your blog as I begin the new year on a new foot and truly consider you a inspiration. I certainly hope to be able to stick to my new healthy lifestyle this time.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3007 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3007 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 15:09:09 -0500 christie commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' christie]]> I completely know what you mean. I've only lost 40 pounds and I still weigh 240, which is huge compared to an 'average' sized girl... but I appreciate my size more because I've worked to get here. I don't feel that embarrassed in a bathing suit because it looks so much BETTER than it used to.
I look forward to 100 pounds from now and how much I will appreciate being there, more than someone who has always been thin. I always thought about that but couldn't put it into words like you can... you are so eloquent!

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3008 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3008 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 15:45:13 -0500 Lori commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Lori]]> I love that part about the built-in asshole detector. Everything you wrote is really so true. But I don't see you as being overweight, Ms Pasta Queen!

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3009 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3009 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 16:17:44 -0500 Jen commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Jen]]> I looked at your pics (in 3D, even) and think you look great. And the transformation is even more dramatic seen from all angles like that. You deserve to pose in front of a few mirrors!

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3010 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3010 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 16:29:04 -0500 R commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' R]]> thank you for such an inspiring post. I think you are successful because of your fabulous attitude. You look to the good and appreciate what you have.

It has as much to do with your inner mindset as anything.

But you do look gorgeous now ;)

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3011 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3011 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 17:51:59 -0500 Jenna commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Jenna]]> Thanks for the great post. :o )

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3012 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3012 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 17:53:44 -0500 Mymsie commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Mymsie]]> Agreed. Unfortunately, making fun of overweight people seems to be the last safe prejudice of our society. :(

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3013 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3013 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 18:14:08 -0500 Rosemary Grace commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Rosemary Grace]]> I absolutely agree. I am sure that experiencing being overweight has enabled me to deal much better with having a 4 inch scar in the middle of my face from cancer surgery. It's only been a year, but It's pretty easy for me to look in the mirror and see something I like, and focus on that.

Meanwhile, I see my brilliant beautiful beanpole sister HATING herself in the mirror because she is in her 30s and her face is changing and she has to work harder to stay in her favourite pants. She has always been very thin, now she's thin, but athletic, she was a model when she was in her late teens, and I am so sure that it has set herself up to fixate on her looks as the source of self worth. If she'd had to deal with not being able to own jeans at all for years because there were none to fit her...I don't think she'd mind so much changing from a size 4 to a size 6.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3014 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3014 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 18:41:24 -0500 Janice Bridge commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Mymsie's comment is only too true. I worked with my local public school district for a number of years. Not only making fun of fat people - but being out and out rude to them - is, unfortunately, tolerated at a level you would only believe if you, yourself, were once a fat person.

In our community the number one reason listed for altercations at the junior high school level was one student calling another student fat! Racial slurs, taunts about religious beliefs, and implications of sexual orientation are all viewed by the school administration as an "offensive action." but calling someone FAT is not!

Definitely room for improvement

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3015 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3015 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 18:41:33 -0500 Michele commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' I think you look so cute too. You have come so far and it was not easy. The triumph over adversity shows in your face and your carraige. It makes you look "so cute." You almost glow. You go girl.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3016 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3016 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 18:54:19 -0500 e commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Amazing post. i sense that you are having a bit of trouble "letting go" of a mental image you have of yourself as fat though. Because at 5'9', 192 lbs, and living in the midwest, you OFFICIALLY no longer qualify as "fat."

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3017 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3017 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 19:32:13 -0500 Erin commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Erin]]> I think you summed up the Ballad of the Fat Chick better than anything I've ever read. The paragraph about the built-in asshole detector was the part that resonated with me most. When I was little, I viewed my weight as sort of an invisible cloak, and routinely getting ignored or left out enabled me with the ability to perceive events and people more acutely as a result. That's a mixed blessing now, because it's also a crutch for me to stay the way I am and avoid life.

I am so beyond amazed by the internal metamorphoses that those who have already made great strides in their weight loss undergo. More so than any other form of detox, I think weight loss requires so much more honesty and grace, and the opportunity to see those experiences through the eyes of bloggers like you is incredibly invaluable to me.

Thanks for a wonderful post and have a great weekend.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3018 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3018 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 22:21:39 -0500 jenn commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' A friend sent me the link for your blog today. I am so impressed with you and your success! Yea you! I hope that I can find similar luck in my journey toward weight loss. Again...yea for you! Amazing job!!!

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3019 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3019 Fri, 05 Jan 2007 23:24:56 -0500 Patty commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Patty]]> Nice post, pasta queen. I guess I was kind of on the other side of the fence. When I was young prob. up to age 25 I was never overweight, maybe 10 or 20 and would lose it. I never really thought much about the wt or how I felt about it. As I got older and gained wt year by year and then at my highest after having a child, I clearly remember how it felt to be thin and active and healthy. It was almost like a thorn in my side or something. But, I finally was ready last year to get healthy and will continue until I get there. It makes me a little sad how long I have lived w/ this extra weight as I remember that it was better and how it felt to be active and more alive and not sitting on the sidelines. Thanks for the post, got me thinking about this specific area and how this will motivate me when I hit snags in the road.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3020 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3020 Sat, 06 Jan 2007 00:06:45 -0500 Milana commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Milana]]> It's always amazing how everything I'm thinking, you are able to put into words. You are truly amazing...both with your weight loss and all of your inspiring posts...I hope that everytime you have someone tell you that (which seems to be alot these days :)) you take a moment and let it sink in, and that you don't just wave it off...you ARE amazing! You've done so well, I'm so proud and can't wait to see you get to goal!

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3021 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3021 Sat, 06 Jan 2007 01:22:04 -0500 Slurpeegirl commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' I'm not sure how you always manage to do this, but you take the thoughts right out of my head and write them down. Your thoughts about surviving being fat, and how you had a pretty good life even while fat is exactly what I needed to read!! We're all forever trying to attain some goal and it seems like we lose track of trying to live our lives WHILE we achieve that goal (something I've been doing for years). Thanks for the inspiration!!

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3022 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3022 Sat, 06 Jan 2007 10:15:14 -0500 Bee commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' I just found your blog after a little Googling spree today. I've been working on losing weight since this past summer, but had never actually thought to search for blogs until right now. Imagine my surprise in discovering this wonderful site, and then discovering how similar our situations are. I just turned 27 years old, started out weighing almost 400 pounds at my heaviest, and am currently down to 328. I still have a long way to go, but I'm already proud of what I've accomplished so far - and believe it or not, I feel comparatively cute already at 328. Having once lost a ton of weight at the start of junior high only to gain it back with interest, and now going through the process again, this post really resonated with me. I hope I can continue to be as successful as you have been - now excuse me while I go read all of your archives.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3023 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3023 Fri, 12 Jan 2007 16:20:13 -0500 Glib Gurl commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Glib Gurl]]> I agree with what everyone has said - great post and you look fabulous. One thing strikes me, however -- the part about life being okay at your heaviest. That's how I sort of feel now. I mean, yes, it would be wonderful to wear smaller clothes, have less physical discomfort, and turn the heads of the boys a little more often, but generally I think my life is pretty good . . . yet everybody and their mama (including Oprah) keeps swearing up and down how miserable my life must be because I'm fat. I find that rather insulting . . . but it also sort of scares me. What if I do lose weight and discover that, indeed, my current life is miserable? You give me hope that that won't be the case. Thanks, PQ! (If you don't mind, I think I might blog about this a bit myself.)

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3024 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3024 Sun, 14 Jan 2007 20:15:05 -0500 Mercedes commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Mercedes]]> Wow.. That really touched and inspired me, personally being obese and knowing what it is like.
I wish you the best of luck my dear.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3025 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3025 Mon, 05 Feb 2007 02:16:55 -0500 jen commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' i am very fat. i way close to 800 pounds when i am only 5 2. it sucks. i also can no longer fit into bathroom stalls. when i was 11 years old i was extremely obese and was almost 450 pds then and i tried to get into and elevator and there was this little kid. my stomach was huge and had nearly pinned him in a corner. he pulled up my shirt andgrabbed a big handful of my fat and said look mommy this person is giggly and wiggly! look how big her legs are! she must be very fat!

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3026 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3026 Thu, 01 Mar 2007 14:59:39 -0500 Nau-Dee commented on 'Good things about having been morbidly obese' Nau-Dee]]> I love your comment of: "Same size, different attitude". That's how I've been feeling lately but hadn't put words to it.
I've been really enjoying reading your journey! I find it extremely helpful and inspirational to my own goals and thoughts.

]]> http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3027 http://pastaqueen.com/halfofme/archives/2007/01/perspective.html#comment-3027 Sat, 03 Mar 2007 18:32:08 -0500