Comments on: Bye, Bye, Beck and other realizations

By: Janeway

Janeway — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 02:16:48 +0000

Your comments are very insightful and I applaud you for finding your own way… however I just have to stick up for the Beck book! It may not be what you’re feeling like doing at the moment — entirely understandable — but I found it incredibly helpful in losing weight, and especially in maintiaining my weight loss. It made me think differently about many food-related issues, and over time it helped me redefine my idea of “normal” eating. It was hard at times, but it got easier. Someday you may be in the right mood for Beck again, so keep that copy!

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 17:08:24 +0000

Don’t hit with a stick if I’m person no. 200 mentioning this – BUT have you ever considered only eating when hungry, stopping when full? I’m doing it plus I eat exactly what I want (pizza, ice cream you name) and have lost over 30 pounds in the process (half a year). Only requires to differentiate between physical hunger and emotional eating urge.

By: Vanessa R

Vanessa R — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 09:02:56 +0000

I bought the book on a recommendation from my best friend. I’ve read through it. I can’t say I ever actually did it all. Started a couple of times but….The card idea is somewhat nice, though I am so absent minded sometimes that I can’t remember to look at it a few times a day.

I should probably read through it again and try to find the lessons that would work for me. But I think the whole thing would leave me more neurotic about food and fitness than I already can be :)

By: Shelley

Shelley — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:46:23 +0000

You said it all. I care too much what others think about me. It’s like a sickness. And logically I am pretty sure thoughts about me are fleeting moments in their day never to be recalled when all is said and done. While I am here agonizing and feeling like I don’t measure up. Argh…

By: Brittney Kara

Brittney Kara — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 06:33:03 +0000

Intresting….I would have to disagree. I am in fact a “Skinny Person” and I think about weight and weight related issues everyday. I know that there are millions of people out there battling their weight and feel hopeless. I believe I have a gift that can help them and so I choose to educate others on this topic. That is what I blog about and what I talk about everyday.

By: diane

diane — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 01:40:13 +0000

Thank you for this post. I needed to read this. Through the holidays and ridiculous work stress, I’ve gained back 7 pounds, and after working so hard to lose 63, I am so defeated by the gain. And what am I most worried about? What other people will think. Like somehow by not maintaining or losing the last 20, I’m failing them. But I didn’t get into this for them. I did it for me. And I’m a whole lot healthier than I was.
Like you, I need to get back to doing this for me. And it can take however long it takes! Thank you again!!!!

By: biff.welly

biff.welly — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 00:21:02 +0000

interesting, like several others, I got the book from the library after hearing about it on your blog. Also like some others I had gastric bypass 4 years ago and have gained weight back.

I think what this says about all of us is that it is a struggle, its not easy, and its very individual. What motivates us and whatever internal dialouges we have are all our own. We do need to find where we are happy and be honest with ourselves.

For me, I’m not happy, I’ve gained enough that my clothes don’t fit and i’m just not where I want to be. So I’m going to keep exploring the Beck – I like the tools and think they might be useful for me (and my undergrad degree was in psychology so I do like the cognigive behaviour model…its another level that is holding my interest).

I really appreciate that you share your thoughts, as you can see they are thoughts we are all having and going through.

By: sklig

sklig — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 04:43:28 +0000

So, in response to myself, JUST realized that i wrote ‘chronic heading’ when I meant ‘chronic headache’. No idea what chronic heading is.

By: Sklig

Sklig — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:36:22 +0000

@sandy – To some degree, I agree with you- except I think PQ does know why she’s gaining (chronic heading, and just not feeling like caring…sort of the same thing I’m going through right now). It’s not that she doesn’t know why she’s gaining, as that’s obvious, it’s that she’s not sure how to stop it and still be happy, and she’s not UNhappy right now..

Now that I’ve spoken for PQ, we’ll see if I actually knew what I was talking about or just made something totally different out of it.

By: RNegade

RNegade — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 15:37:55 +0000

@SBN – Zadoff’s book was a recipe for ED, for me, although obviously other folks (such as you) have a different response! I spent years recovering from “OA recovery” and learning not to manipulate myself like a thing. That was a very very stressful mindset for me. Not healthy. I am a living breathing person, after all, not a machine.

Crystal Renn’s book, “Hungry”, however, shows how a socially adored–yet inwardly miserable–thin woman learned to enjoy food, have fun, and love herself as a plus sized model. I prefer her example, though I don’t aspire to be a model!