Comments on: Monday morning musing

By: Debs

Debs — Thu, 22 May 2008 15:38:16 +0000

I’ve lost over 80lb, and my mental image of myself is totally screwed! I have no idea. Everytime I see myself in the mirror, or especially in a photo I’m like ‘who on earth is that?!’

By: Zentient

Zentient — Thu, 22 May 2008 10:48:34 +0000

That quote sounds pithy and wise, but what is the process of changing how you see? Don’t we only have to fully come to know what we see right here, right now, with clarity and no judgment, without the need to change it? Why do we have to believe there is something wrong with us?

We can change our looks, and they will continue to change no matter what. We will all eventually grow old if we are fortunate, and we will have no control over that.

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 20 May 2008 12:48:08 +0000

It’s funny that I never considered the weight loss angle when I read this quote (I am not currently struggling w/that so much and I imagine many readers here might be). I liked it because it speaks to general outlook on life/world, focusing on what’s really important and not the stupid stuff we normally worry about. It reminds me a bit of Gandhi’s “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

By: Leslie

Leslie — Tue, 20 May 2008 00:33:24 +0000

There’s a Doctor in the city I live that wrote a book on his weight loss experience about 7 years ago. Now he has a Weight Loss Group that meets every week. This bumper sticker is very close to his “motto”: You must first change the way you see before you can change the way you look.” Took his classes for 6 weeks and they were pretty good.

Leslie

By: Dreamer

Dreamer — Mon, 19 May 2008 22:36:58 +0000

I like this quote. It reminds me of another one by motivational/spiritual speaker Wayne Dyer:

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

By: K

Mon, 19 May 2008 22:25:17 +0000

Well, if I had been happier with how I looked, I wouldn’t have avoided exercising throughout my teens for fear of looking silly, and I would have been a lot fitter. And therefore would have felt, and looked, better. So I think this is very wise.

It’s true that you can be in denial about what you look like, or about how healthy your habits are. But I think if you want to make a change, self-loathing is not going to be a healthy or (I hope) sustainable motivating force.

And then there are the people who really do see something that isn’t there when they look in the mirror. My husband is thin, and he seriously thinks he isn’t and beats himself up about it, and there’s nothing whatever that’s helpful or useful about that self-image.

By: MB

MB — Mon, 19 May 2008 20:58:39 +0000

Great quote! I avoid looking in full length mirrors these days but maybe I really need to open my eyes and change how I see myself. Loved the book! Thanks for the autograph. I'm going to have to re-read it again and take the highlighter to my favorite parts. You have an amazing writing style and I hope you continue to writing in your blog and books. I'll be reading. Here's my Half-Assed review: http://finallyfiguringitout.blogspot.com/2008/05/half-assed-review.html

By: Ash

Ash — Mon, 19 May 2008 18:39:12 +0000

HI there,

Just wanted to say that I think you’re amazing for achieving your goals and staying there!

I have just found your blog and am totally inspired again.

I lost nearly 40 kilograms between 2003 and 2005 but then got pregnant and I put a lot back on again. I now have between 13 and 15 kilos to lose and I am drawing inspiration from every angle.

Thanks for sharing!

Ash

By: Maya

Maya — Mon, 19 May 2008 17:20:08 +0000

I know this is completely random, but has anyone expressed any negativity or jealousy towards you since you’ve lost weight? do they try to downplay your success?

Congratulations!!!

Your are successfull in both your weightloss, and now with your book.

I was wondering because even though my journey

cannot even come close to what you’ve accomplished

I have family members that are treating me differently since I have lost weight.

They treat me kinda bad really.

A few yrs ago I lost 120lb through diet and excercise, and so far I have maintained the loss of all but 10lbs.

The two family members (both female) and myself were close, or so I thought.

You seem to have family and friends supporting you all over the place.

Is there anyone that dissapointed you with their reaction to how you made one of your dreams a realization?

I really did not want to cut ties with these two family members. I imagined life easier after I lost the weight.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Mon, 19 May 2008 16:41:12 +0000

Wow! You like to start trouble, don’t you?! This is quite a quote… Two and a half years ago, I set out to do BOTH those things. I have managed to change how I look fairly dramatically, though I have not managed to “finish” the job. How I see has been a different battle all together, and definitely the harder of the two. I struggle with these thoughts on a daily basis and I worry that I will never be who I want to be (because I “see” with such critical eyes!). You can change so much about yourself ~ your clothes, your hair style, your weight, your education, your job, your location, etc… But in the end, you still have to live with yourself and all your imperfections…and that may be the hardest thing of all.