Comments on: Ask a loser

By: Country Chicken

Country Chicken — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 17:01:01 +0000

I was reading these comments and was reminded by a birthday party at work that happened exactly one year ago. It was the birthday of the director in my department. My manager bought a small cake and ice cream. I was the only person who did not eat any cake or ice cream. Not a touch. The cake ran out and another employee asked what happened to it. The director said I had three pieces. The employee said, “Really?” There were 20 people who were in the room and had cake and ice cream. I was the only obese person in the room. A year ago, I was 30 pounds down from my highest weight and the weight loss was noticeable and most people at work had expressed happiness for me.

Perhaps the director’s comments were meant to be a joke, only his tone didn’t make his words sound like a joke. I was surprised because he could have used anyone else in the room instead of my name, but he didn’t. The employee seemed to think the director was serious. So I dryly said, “Yeah, and I had three scoops of ice cream, too.”

The employee looked at me and probably assumed that because I was the only fat person in the room that I had indeed ate three slices of cake.

Today was the director’s birthday again and I went to the party, but I didn’t have any food. I should be happy that today is his birthday, but I sense that he’s not happy with my weight loss. As of today, I am 80 pounds down from my highest weight. I still have 50 pounds to lose.

I was prepared this year with a bunch of snappy sayings in case the director made another sarcastic remark.

By: PastaQueen

PastaQueen — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 10:22:40 +0000

summer – I deal with hunger by eating.

I’m of the opinion that hunger is a form of pain and I’m not going to live my life in pain. I don’t really have an allotment of what I eat during the day, though I typically eat the same amount of stuff at the same times. But if it’s late and I’m hungry I’ll grab something low-cal and filling, like veggies. I portion it out carefully on a plate, eat what I’ve set aside and if I’m still hungry after 10 minutes or so I’ll grab some more.

By: summer

summer — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 08:04:22 +0000

Yeah, I can see not wanting to post meal plans. I mean it’s simply calories-in, calories-out at the end of the day. I can imagine it would be annoying to post that you eat an egg in the morning and salad and chicken for dinner, etc. etc. just to have someone post “Well i followed that for a week and didn’t lose any weight!” all insanely.

What you could post about, that might be useful, is how you deal with the sensation of HUNGER. Like, say, it’s 9pm on a Wednesday, and you worked out at 7pm, and you’ve already eaten your daily allotment of whatever you eat. American Idol’s on, and you’re kind of hungry. What do you do, usually?

By: hwe

hwe — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 19:47:17 +0000

here's a pic of star jones's hanging arm skin: http://theskinnywebsite.com/site/2007/03/27/star-jones-eats-cake/ i don't think it looks that bad, actually.

By: NicoleW

NicoleW — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 19:20:04 +0000

Ah, so you get the “Shame Repository” treatment too. I hate it when people follow up a compliment with “Oh, I need to lose weight.” I have no idea what to say to that. I usually just end up making clucky sympathetic sounds and saying that I know it’s hard.

By: Cris

Cris — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 17:08:56 +0000

Thank you so much for your thoughtful answers! Not only did I find them hilarious (the professor bit really cracked me up!) but I think you’re making very rational, excellent points. As far as my question goes, I guess everything’s going to be a bit of an adjustment…and to feel good in my skin is a reward that will probably eclipse any remarks–good or bad–that come my way. Also, I appreciate the way you recognize that superficial judgements are an innate human quality. I too am sensitive of that and try to keep my snap assumptions about people in check…creepy comb-overs, Cro-Magnon eyebrows and all. Thanks again!

By: Mymsie

Mymsie — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 13:34:29 +0000

“I think people put a bit too much emphasis on food when it comes to weight loss.” → Agreed, for sure. We (meaning me) too often forget to address the emotional issues behind overeating. They won’t go away simply with a change in diet.

P.S. Yats? Mmmmmm!

By: Les

Les — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 10:42:54 +0000

I agree that food, while very important, is no more important--possibly a smiggin less important--than exercise. http://weight-master.blogspot.com

By: BrightAngel

BrightAngel — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 09:11:05 +0000

I agree with all your comments,

and I like your attitude.

(Especially since they reflect my own personal opinions and attitude.)

Let’s face it. I’m self-centered to the core.

By: Lose Weight With Me

Lose Weight With Me — Mon, 26 Mar 2007 21:39:46 +0000

I love what you said about people putting too much emphasis on food when it comes to weight loss. That is so true.

I think the key to permanent weight loss is healthy eating habits and consistent exercise habits.