Comments on: Monday Mash Up

By: ginger

ginger — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 11:35:47 +0000

I never understood why men who approach me at the grocery store that say “Smile”! never look like The Rock, John Cena, Brad Pitt or a male stripper. They always look like Jack Black in Nacho Libre…

Besides that, you don’t know what is going on in someone’s life at that particular moment. If they do not look like they want to be bothered, then maybe you should leave them alone. I usually pretend that I cannot hear them. So they have to repeat everything a few times and then just give up. It works wonderfully! It also works with certified idiots at the office.

By: spacedcowgirl

spacedcowgirl — Fri, 27 Oct 2006 11:04:06 +0000

Thank you SO much for posting the “You Don’t Owe Pretty” link. It’s a great reminder in a world that is constantly trying to make you feel like you do owe pretty, or thin, or happy, to everyone around you. Fuck that. I was tired of feeling crazy for my opinion that it is the other person’s problem if they don’t like my outfit, appearance, or facial expression, and that post was great.

Also, I am relatively new here, but you look AMAZING. And a resting heart rate of 50? Awesome! I can’t believe how much you have accomplished. I’m 24 pounds into a 136-pound weight loss goal, so it does me a lot of good to see your success. Congratulations and thank you.

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 10:27:46 +0000

I love ice cream and I love cake, but I’ve never had an ice cream cake that was any good.

By: BethK

BethK — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 08:47:05 +0000

Happy Birthday, PQ. I’m glad you enjoyed your cake because, seriously, what’s better than having exactly what you want, exactly when you want it?

Thanks for posting those links, especially the “pretty” one. Sooo true.

By: blubbah

blubbah — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 05:29:19 +0000

Weirdly, that cake didn’t look appealing to me at all. Instead, I started thinking about what pictures of cake might have got me craving cake.

And then I wanted cake. Heh.

By: Patty

Patty — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 03:17:25 +0000

Hope you enjoyed the cake and had a very happy BDay! It brought back memories when you talked about someone telling you to smile. God, men used to to that when I was young and single all the time when out with friends or everywhere. It would upset me so much as it was constant! I think it is a way for some men to pick up women, I really do. What they don’t know is, we are thinking (shut the fu#k up! I’ll smile when I darn well please!)

By: CactusFreek

CactusFreek — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 01:23:39 +0000

Hi :o)

I love ice cream cake too! Mmmmmmm!!

Dam it!

By: Monica

Monica — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 22:39:53 +0000

Thanks for the links! I take the coward's way out and and wear headphones I was just going to say in my previous post (but got too lazy to type it): I have earphones on all the time when I'm alone (outside, metro, bus, pharmacy, grocery store etc.) and it's even more annoying when I see someone mouthing some words, I take one of my earphones off, thinking he's asking for the time or directions, only to hear "SMILE!", or "SMILE, DAMMIT!!!" (or even worse: "Hey baby, [insert stuff about my body or his dick or a combination thereof here] !!"). All I'm thinking is: "I took my earphone off, and stopped to pay attention to what they're saying, for this?" Sometimes I just point to one of my earphones, shrug and just keep walking, hoping that they weren't asking me to call 911 for them.

By: shinypenny

shinypenny — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 21:44:04 +0000

I just checked those links and there's been some rot, so here are some more working ones: Alas a Blog: http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2004/09/30/smiling-at-strangers/ http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2004/10/01/miss-manners-and-smiling/ Mousewords (Amanda-at-Pandagon.net's old blog) http://mousewords.blogspot.com/2004/09/smiling-saga-continues.html http://mousewords.blogspot.com/2004/09/smiling.html Utopian Hell http://utopianhell.com/blog/moving-forward Jennworks http://web.archive.org/web/20041015204951/http://www.jennworks.com/archives/2004/10/01/smile It was a great discussion. I take the coward's way out and and wear headphones on my bus and subway commute to avoid smile commands (and random conversational attempts) from complete strangers. Even with headphones, some guys still try though.

By: Monica

Monica — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 19:02:43 +0000

There was a very interesting bit of blogging about the whole “smile!” entitlement that made the rounds a bit back on some feminist blogs

Thanks for posting this, I’ll read some of them. I get this ALL the fucking time. I’m so sick of it.