Comments on: Pack Mentality http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/ You'll laugh you ass off. (I did.) Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:02:58 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: PastaQueen http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1796 PastaQueen Mon, 24 Jul 2006 10:41:25 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1796 Lowcarb_dave - LOL! Heh, you had me at "OMG." Lowcarb_dave – LOL! Heh, you had me at “OMG.”

]]> By: Lowcarb_dave http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1795 Lowcarb_dave Mon, 24 Jul 2006 05:22:54 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1795 OMG You are HOT Pasta Queen! OMG You are HOT Pasta Queen!

]]> By: R http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1794 R Sun, 23 Jul 2006 22:38:47 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1794 Having gained and lost weight a bunch of times, I can attest to the fact that being thin does not solve all your problems. It can, indeed, cause problems when you don't fit in because you spend so much more time and energy being thin (exercising, eating right) than your peers do. But, the lottery thing is more interesting: The problem with lottery winners is not that they have new problems, but that they don't have frugal habits, cooking skills, and budgeting handed to them with the lottery. Without traversing that learning curve, they blow the dough. Which makes me wonder about the dieting learning curve. What are the components? How To Exercise, including how to fit it in. How To Deal with Food Police and Food Pushers. I'm still bad at this - I avoid them rather than deal with it. How to Deal with Jerks who tell you what to weigh: Newsflash: the jerks are as opinionated about a woman of normal weight as a woman overweight on the health charts. I was trying to convince myself today to "let go" of the dieting obsession. If I were 10 pounds from my goal weight, instead of 40, if I had been successfully losing weight for 6 months instead of 1.5 months, if I had successfully weathered social activities, work stress, and felt comfortable with the tactics it takes me to lose weight, then I would be more productive at work. I wouldn't change what I'm doing - exercising, eating right, drinking lots - but I'd be able to do that on auto-pilot. When does THAT happen, I wonder? I operate on auto-pilot with money; why can't I do the same thing with food? I mean, what skills am I still missing, and where do I find them? Having gained and lost weight a bunch of times, I can attest to the fact that being thin does not solve all your problems. It can, indeed, cause problems when you don’t fit in because you spend so much more time and energy being thin (exercising, eating right) than your peers do.

But, the lottery thing is more interesting: The problem with lottery winners is not that they have new problems, but that they don’t have frugal habits, cooking skills, and budgeting handed to them with the lottery. Without traversing that learning curve, they blow the dough.

Which makes me wonder about the dieting learning curve. What are the components? How To Exercise, including how to fit it in. How To Deal with Food Police and Food Pushers. I’m still bad at this – I avoid them rather than deal with it. How to Deal with Jerks who tell you what to weigh: Newsflash: the jerks are as opinionated about a woman of normal weight as a woman overweight on the health charts.

I was trying to convince myself today to “let go” of the dieting obsession. If I were 10 pounds from my goal weight, instead of 40, if I had been successfully losing weight for 6 months instead of 1.5 months, if I had successfully weathered social activities, work stress, and felt comfortable with the tactics it takes me to lose weight, then I would be more productive at work. I wouldn’t change what I’m doing – exercising, eating right, drinking lots – but I’d be able to do that on auto-pilot. When does THAT happen, I wonder? I operate on auto-pilot with money; why can’t I do the same thing with food? I mean, what skills am I still missing, and where do I find them?

]]> By: PastaQueen http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1793 PastaQueen Sat, 22 Jul 2006 22:00:59 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1793 Coco - I didn't mean to imply that being thin isn't any better than being fat. If I believed that I wouldn't be bothering to lose weight. I just meant that being thin doesn't mean you have no problems. You just have different problems than when you were fat, though perhaps better problems. It's like how people who win the lottery no longer have difficulty paying the rent, but have problems with moochers and handling their fortune. Still problems, but better problems. Coco – I didn’t mean to imply that being thin isn’t any better than being fat. If I believed that I wouldn’t be bothering to lose weight. I just meant that being thin doesn’t mean you have no problems. You just have different problems than when you were fat, though perhaps better problems. It’s like how people who win the lottery no longer have difficulty paying the rent, but have problems with moochers and handling their fortune. Still problems, but better problems.

]]> By: Coco http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1792 Coco Sat, 22 Jul 2006 21:21:20 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1792 O.K., here's the thing, PastaQueen . . . I have to agree with Peter on this (hi, Peter, remember me?I accidentally 'pitchforked' you on this very blog . . .). I, too, spent my twenties, even a few years into my thirties, as what some called "hot." (I felt I was entitled after a miserably awkward and ugly pre-and post-pubesensce). Anyway . . . stuff happened, I got fat, I still AM fat, months from 40 (!), and I can tell you: there is no "woe is me" to being a healthy, toned slim! I'm sure there are others with different experiences, but for the most part,life *is* easier on so many levels (all the ones you so perfectly capture), even if it's only the absence of this THING in your head that we're almost always conscious of. You're almost there, hun, and you absolutely motivate me, and many others. Don't let the thin ones get in your brain. Keep struttin', for all of us who hope to strut in your footsteps! =) O.K., here’s the thing, PastaQueen . . . I have to agree with Peter on this (hi, Peter, remember me?I accidentally ‘pitchforked’ you on this very blog . . .). I, too, spent my twenties, even a few years into my thirties, as what some called “hot.” (I felt I was entitled after a miserably awkward and ugly pre-and post-pubesensce). Anyway . . . stuff happened, I got fat, I still AM fat, months from 40 (!), and I can tell you: there is no “woe is me” to being a healthy, toned slim! I’m sure there are others with different experiences, but for the most part,life *is* easier on so many levels (all the ones you so perfectly capture), even if it’s only the absence of this THING in your head that we’re almost always conscious of.

You’re almost there, hun, and you absolutely motivate me, and many others. Don’t let the thin ones get in your brain. Keep struttin’, for all of us who hope to strut in your footsteps! =)

]]> By: Narelle http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1791 Narelle Sat, 22 Jul 2006 20:03:07 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1791 I have only been reading your blog for a short time but I enjoy it very much. I have lost around 70kg (154 pounds) and am getting down the business end of it all and I am finding that I am going through a lot of things that you voice in your blog. I found myself nodding continually at this post especially the last paragraph. To some point I am finding that although I have lost this amount of weight, what I really wanted in life is still elluding me and I find myself questioning why I did it all in the first place. I guess I have to come to the conclusion that I did this for the whole overall improvement of me rather than one particular thing. The head knows that however it is taking the heart a bit longer to comprehend. Thank you for your inciteful and honest comments about your journey - I am thoroughly enjoying reading them. Narelle I have only been reading your blog for a short time but I enjoy it very much. I have lost around 70kg (154 pounds) and am getting down the business end of it all and I am finding that I am going through a lot of things that you voice in your blog. I found myself nodding continually at this post especially the last paragraph. To some point I am finding that although I have lost this amount of weight, what I really wanted in life is still elluding me and I find myself questioning why I did it all in the first place. I guess I have to come to the conclusion that I did this for the whole overall improvement of me rather than one particular thing. The head knows that however it is taking the heart a bit longer to comprehend. Thank you for your inciteful and honest comments about your journey – I am thoroughly enjoying reading them.

Narelle

]]> By: Heather http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1790 Heather Sat, 22 Jul 2006 12:04:03 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1790 "It's like the early Darwin alert system, 'Warning! Rival, rival! Endangering chances of procreation!' " For this assessment, you win at life. That is all. :) “It’s like the early Darwin alert system, ‘Warning! Rival, rival! Endangering chances of procreation!’ ”

For this assessment, you win at life.

That is all.

:)

]]> By: Jeni http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1789 Jeni Fri, 21 Jul 2006 18:30:04 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1789 I am dying laughing here. You crack me up! I know exactly how you feel because this is what I encounter at my job every day. Eek! We're all friends, but something insides me just wants to attack! Or eat them. :) I am dying laughing here. You crack me up! I know exactly how you feel because this is what I encounter at my job every day. Eek! We’re all friends, but something insides me just wants to attack! Or eat them. :)

]]> By: kathryn http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1788 kathryn Fri, 21 Jul 2006 18:04:27 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1788 Whenever I see a pack of thin girls, I comfort myself with the thought that I have better boobs! Whenever I see a pack of thin girls, I comfort myself with the thought that I have better boobs!

]]> By: Ari http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2006/07/pack-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1787 Ari Fri, 21 Jul 2006 17:26:06 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=344#comment-1787 I totally get this. I am constantly fighting the "only compare yourself to yourself" battle. I totally get this. I am constantly fighting the “only compare yourself to yourself” battle.

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