Comments on: Inaccurate Self Image http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/ You'll laugh you ass off. (I did.) Tue, 15 May 2012 03:15:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Michelle http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-153184 Michelle Sun, 19 Dec 2010 00:31:22 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-153184 Just found your blog today! I definitely can relate with the reverse anorexia theory!!! I have been in total denial about my weight!! I constantly compare myself to others, especially other weight challenged and think yeah, but I hold my weight so much better and I am so much cuter!! 272 on a 37 year old 5'5 frame is definitely not cute!! and also not healthy!! I am realizing that telling myself these things is my way of dealing (or should I say not dealing) with my weight!! thank you for sharing your story , I will keep on reading !! Just found your blog today! I definitely can relate with the reverse anorexia theory!!! I have been in total denial about my weight!! I constantly compare myself to others, especially other weight challenged and think yeah, but I hold my weight so much better and I am so much cuter!! 272 on a 37 year old 5’5 frame is definitely not cute!! and also not healthy!! I am realizing that telling myself these things is my way of dealing (or should I say not dealing) with my weight!! thank you for sharing your story , I will keep on reading !!

]]> By: Lori http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-35501 Lori Fri, 16 Apr 2010 03:57:04 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-35501 Wow...I seriously thought I was the only one that felt this way. To read this blog entry, then all of the comments of others that have felt exactly the same way is amazing! Congratulations...you are an inspiration! Wow…I seriously thought I was the only one that felt this way. To read this blog entry, then all of the comments of others that have felt exactly the same way is amazing! Congratulations…you are an inspiration!

]]> By: andrea http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-69 andrea Tue, 20 Oct 2009 13:46:27 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-69 Just found your blog. This is the first page I've read and like everyone else, it could have been written by me. I remember thinking that I felt like a skinny person in a fat suit; that I could just unzip it and the real me would step out. I also didn't identify with other people who were fat; they weren't like me....but I got fatter and fatter. I avoided scales successfully, but it was my joints (ankles and feet specifically) that finally got my attention. They ached so badly if I did anything halfway energetic, that I felt like I was going to be one of those people needing a motorized scooter in my 50's just to get around. How horrible that would be! So, last November I bought a scale that could weigh me and found out I was 380 pounds. I started Nutrisystem on Nov. 1, 2008 and so far have lost 105 pounds. I feel great and can't wait to get rid of the rest of this baggage. Congrats on your success! Just found your blog. This is the first page I’ve read and like everyone else, it could have been written by me. I remember thinking that I felt like a skinny person in a fat suit; that I could just unzip it and the real me would step out. I also didn’t identify with other people who were fat; they weren’t like me….but I got fatter and fatter. I avoided scales successfully, but it was my joints (ankles and feet specifically) that finally got my attention. They ached so badly if I did anything halfway energetic, that I felt like I was going to be one of those people needing a motorized scooter in my 50′s just to get around. How horrible that would be! So, last November I bought a scale that could weigh me and found out I was 380 pounds. I started Nutrisystem on Nov. 1, 2008 and so far have lost 105 pounds. I feel great and can’t wait to get rid of the rest of this baggage. Congrats on your success!

]]> By: traci http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-68 traci Mon, 19 Oct 2009 12:16:46 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-68 Wow. Just started reading your archives and pulled this up first. How many people have said that they COULD have written this post or already DID, but less well? Well, you can add me to the latter list! I read this with my mouth hanging open. This is nearly word-for-word the same as a journal entry I made less than a year ago. I made the same anorexia comparison...and also made the point that I am always looking at others, not at myself, so it is easy to continue the delusion that I didn't really LOOK like I was morbidly obese... I'm on my own weight loss journey (down 62 pounds at this point) and looking forward to reading more of your blog. I just placed my order for your book too! Wow. Just started reading your archives and pulled this up first. How many people have said that they COULD have written this post or already DID, but less well? Well, you can add me to the latter list! I read this with my mouth hanging open. This is nearly word-for-word the same as a journal entry I made less than a year ago. I made the same anorexia comparison…and also made the point that I am always looking at others, not at myself, so it is easy to continue the delusion that I didn’t really LOOK like I was morbidly obese…

I’m on my own weight loss journey (down 62 pounds at this point) and looking forward to reading more of your blog. I just placed my order for your book too!

]]> By: Jo http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-67 Jo Sun, 20 Sep 2009 16:03:59 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-67 Just found your blog today after reading your book, so I'm playing catch-up. I've never heard this phenom expressed as well as you have in this post & in your book. I lost 140 lbs. about 5 yrs. ago (have regained about 50--working on that), and while so many people who lose a lot of weight struggle w/ identifying w/ being normal-sized, I never did; I finally felt like I looked the way I always FELT I was! And get this: I didn't lose my weight til I was 54-55 years old, so I was obese for DECADES!! I still always felt like that wasn't really me or that it was just "temporary"! Just found your blog today after reading your book, so I’m playing catch-up.

I’ve never heard this phenom expressed as well as you have in this post & in your book. I lost 140 lbs. about 5 yrs. ago (have regained about 50–working on that), and while so many people who lose a lot of weight struggle w/ identifying w/ being normal-sized, I never did; I finally felt like I looked the way I always FELT I was! And get this: I didn’t lose my weight til I was 54-55 years old, so I was obese for DECADES!! I still always felt like that wasn’t really me or that it was just “temporary”!

]]> By: Pippa http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-66 Pippa Fri, 11 Sep 2009 13:59:47 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-66 My friend has been telling me about your blog and finally linked me to it today, so I've been catching up on the archives. What's funny is that I was thinking along these same lines this morning as I was brushing my hair. Only somehow I have <b>both</b> erroneous body images. There's a piece of me that still thinks I look the way I did in high school - kind of chunky (my doctor at the time would have liked to have seen 10 pounds off) but not bad, and then I surprise myself when I can't squeeze through tiny spaces. And yet there's this other piece of me that has, for as long as I can recall (at least since sixth grade, possibly earlier) felt grossly obese even though I was a totally normal weight kid - just with a larger frame than some (I actually am "big boned"). So part of me thinks I'm really fine, part of me thinks I'm horribly obese and beyond helping... and in reality I'm somewhere in between. I topped out somewhere around 290 (I'm 5'8") and as of yesterday morning I'm down to 256.7. Two rounds of the Master Cleanse have helped enormously - it kills the junk food cravings and helps the metabolism to work more efficiently - and I've finally started dancing again. Plus finally been through enough therapy to look at some of the sexual abuse and other issues that kept part of me wanting to be fat for "protection" (don't have to deal with the abuse if you're so fat that nobody wants to have sex with you). Still got nearly a hundred to go, but it's a darn good start for one summer! But it's a major relief to see that I'm not the only one who (even partially) sees myself as actually *smaller* than I am. My friend has been telling me about your blog and finally linked me to it today, so I’ve been catching up on the archives. What’s funny is that I was thinking along these same lines this morning as I was brushing my hair. Only somehow I have both erroneous body images. There’s a piece of me that still thinks I look the way I did in high school – kind of chunky (my doctor at the time would have liked to have seen 10 pounds off) but not bad, and then I surprise myself when I can’t squeeze through tiny spaces. And yet there’s this other piece of me that has, for as long as I can recall (at least since sixth grade, possibly earlier) felt grossly obese even though I was a totally normal weight kid – just with a larger frame than some (I actually am “big boned”). So part of me thinks I’m really fine, part of me thinks I’m horribly obese and beyond helping… and in reality I’m somewhere in between. I topped out somewhere around 290 (I’m 5’8″) and as of yesterday morning I’m down to 256.7. Two rounds of the Master Cleanse have helped enormously – it kills the junk food cravings and helps the metabolism to work more efficiently – and I’ve finally started dancing again. Plus finally been through enough therapy to look at some of the sexual abuse and other issues that kept part of me wanting to be fat for “protection” (don’t have to deal with the abuse if you’re so fat that nobody wants to have sex with you). Still got nearly a hundred to go, but it’s a darn good start for one summer! But it’s a major relief to see that I’m not the only one who (even partially) sees myself as actually *smaller* than I am.

]]> By: Kimberly http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-65 Kimberly Fri, 26 Jun 2009 16:33:46 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-65 For the longest time I was very clumsy. I would bump into the edges of walls and cubicles. I realized that it was because my brain did not realize how big my body was. I was athletic in high school, but then I gained 150 pounds after marriage. My brain had no concept of my true size. I'm less clumsy now, even though still pretty big, so I guess my image has caught up with me thoughts. Now I have this new odd habit of whenever I see another overweight person, I immediately compare myself to him/her. "I probably weigh more than her because I'm taller", or "I'm definitely bigger than her". For the longest time I was very clumsy. I would bump into the edges of walls and cubicles. I realized that it was because my brain did not realize how big my body was. I was athletic in high school, but then I gained 150 pounds after marriage. My brain had no concept of my true size. I’m less clumsy now, even though still pretty big, so I guess my image has caught up with me thoughts. Now I have this new odd habit of whenever I see another overweight person, I immediately compare myself to him/her. “I probably weigh more than her because I’m taller”, or “I’m definitely bigger than her”.

]]> By: Deb http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Deb Tue, 16 Jun 2009 10:05:10 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-64 Wow, I thought I was the only person with this problem. I grew up skinny, and started putting on weight when I got a job sitting at a computer all day. 20 years and 100 lbs later, and I'm still shocked when I catch a glimpse of myself in a store window reflection, or see photos of myself. So many self-help books tell you to "think of yourself as thin" as an aid to weight loss. Well, thinking I'm thin has only allowed me to deny the fact that I'm 100 lbs overweight. Thank God I found this blog--it's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem. Wow, I thought I was the only person with this problem. I grew up skinny, and started putting on weight when I got a job sitting at a computer all day. 20 years and 100 lbs later, and I’m still shocked when I catch a glimpse of myself in a store window reflection, or see photos of myself.

So many self-help books tell you to “think of yourself as thin” as an aid to weight loss. Well, thinking I’m thin has only allowed me to deny the fact that I’m 100 lbs overweight. Thank God I found this blog–it’s nice to know I’m not the only one with this problem.

]]> By: Christy http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Christy Sun, 26 Apr 2009 10:46:20 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-63 I am so glad I am reading this blog. I have been experiencing this phenomenon for quite some time and reading about it has slapped me with enough reality that I'm determined to do something about it. As long as I stayed the "slightly overweight" girl in my head, I could justify not doing anything about it. I'm tired of running every time the cameras comes out or trying to excuse what I see in the dressing room mirrors. I am going to start reading your blog everyday so I can take along a friend on my weight loss journey. I am so glad I am reading this blog. I have been experiencing this phenomenon for quite some time and reading about it has slapped me with enough reality that I’m determined to do something about it. As long as I stayed the “slightly overweight” girl in my head, I could justify not doing anything about it. I’m tired of running every time the cameras comes out or trying to excuse what I see in the dressing room mirrors. I am going to start reading your blog everyday so I can take along a friend on my weight loss journey.

]]> By: Julie http://pastaqueen.com/blog/2004/08/inaccurate-self-image/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Julie Sun, 18 Jan 2009 03:33:29 +0000 http://pastaqueen.com/blog/?p=31#comment-62 yes this is me. i am amazed when i look at the size on my clothes and cannot understand why they don't say "12" cos that is me, after all! just spent 10 days in a motel, sheesh all those mirrors, esp in the bathroom! wake up call big time. but i still "feel" size 12 in my head! yes this is me. i am amazed when i look at the size on my clothes and cannot understand why they don’t say “12″ cos that is me, after all! just spent 10 days in a motel, sheesh all those mirrors, esp in the bathroom! wake up call big time. but i still “feel” size 12 in my head!

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